Finding Contentment in Singleness
In the Christian church culture, we get so caught up in finding “our forever person.” There are countless sermons preached on marriage, and now in younger churches, there are whole series done on dating, engagement, sex, and so forth. The number of Christian wife and mom Instagram accounts and blogs is unreal, and the ability they have for marriage and motherhood to look so easy and beautiful is overwhelming.
So, when Valentine’s Day rolls around again, especially by the time you’re an upperclassmen in college or starting to work a grown-up job in your young or mid-twenties, it’s pretty normal to be sad that you’re sitting at home single another year, while so many of your friends are getting proposed to and stepping into a season of life that, from your perspective, looks so much better than sitting on your couch with a messy bun eating ice cream alone while watching Fixer Upper and dreaming of the Chip Gaines to your Joanna to step in and “fix up” your life.
But can I tell you something? Now matter how beautiful the engagement photos, a ring and a happy marriage will never satisfy your friend’s deepest longings, and it sure won’t ever satisfy yours either. I’m so guilty of dreaming of the day when I will be content and “settled” in life with everything I need, and that “everything” includes my dream husband, living in my dream house and city, and working my dream job.
But that is such a lie from the enemy, because I already have everything I need in Christ to be content. And if my soul is not completely satisfied in Him now, it sure won’t ever be satisfied by the things this world tries to promise will satisfy it.
Because ultimately, this world is passing away (1 John 2:17). Every earthy thing you could ever place your hope in has the potential to (and eventually will) fail you. There’s one, and one thing only, that will NEVER fail you, and that is a relationship with Jesus Christ. He is the only one who provides true contentment, everlasting joy, and eternal life.
Too often, we’re seeking contentment in the wrong thing—We’re trying to find contentment in singleness, when contentment can only be found in Christ.
“Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them. For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever.” - 1 John 2:15-17
I’m choosing to rest in the beauty of his grace and trust His promise that He knows what my future holds, so I have no reason to mourn today. I may not have a diamond ring, but I have an everlasting covenant with the only true Everlasting One, so I’m choosing to find my contentment in Him. Ultimately, it’s a choice we have to make daily to find our contentment in Christ rather than seeking after it from the things of this world. It’s a fight against what our culture says will bring happiness, but it is so worth it.
Is your soul content in Jesus or is it longing to be satisfied by the things of this world?
Spend a few minutes asking the Lord to reveal to you what you most deeply desire, and if it’s not Him, repent. Change that reality doing whatever it takes, as nothing and no one else will ever be worthy of our worship and affection or the longing of our hearts but Him.
Also, if you are a single girl this Valentine’s Day, which I’m guessing most people reading this are, give this video a watch for a relatable, good laugh. I couldn’t resist sharing because it it was so relatable it was hilarious.